Shoe hopes

Aug. 26th, 2025 08:54 am
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Today I have 3 pairs of shoes coming from Amazon. I'm hoping against hope that one of them will be comfortable enough to wear a lot. If not, I do know how to return Amazon purchases.

So last week, after aqua yoga, I sent the Fitness Director a note explaining why I wasn't going to go back (boring, cold because no movement, too much breathing, not enough stretching). She responded by asking if they class made changes would I reconsider? I told her I'd try it once.

Honestly, I could tell within the first 5 minutes that I would be a class regular again. Lots of stretching and moving. My back felt really energized and so did I. 200% better. But, of course, next Monday is Labor Day, so no class. Sigh.

This morning was the first volleyball morning that I really needed to have lights on when I got up. Nice. It's still hot out but at least it's hot for a shorter period of time.

Today is house cleaner day and also time to start making some Halloween themed dolls and creatures. Steve asked me this morning if I'd ramped that up yet and I guess now is the time.

Two ball games but the first isn't until 4.

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I'll start with the tl;dr summary to make sure everyone sees it and then explain further: As of September 1, we will temporarily be forced to block access to Dreamwidth from all IP addresses that geolocate to Mississippi for legal reasons. This block will need to continue until we either win the legal case entirely, or the district court issues another injunction preventing Mississippi from enforcing their social media age verification and parental consent law against us.

Mississippi residents, we are so, so sorry. We really don't want to do this, but the legal fight we and Netchoice have been fighting for you had a temporary setback last week. We genuinely and honestly believe that we're going to win it in the end, but the Fifth Circuit appellate court said that the district judge was wrong to issue the preliminary injunction back in June that would have maintained the status quo and prevented the state from enforcing the law requiring any social media website (which is very broadly defined, and which we definitely qualify as) to deanonymize and age-verify all users and obtain parental permission from the parent of anyone under 18 who wants to open an account.

Netchoice took that appellate ruling up to the Supreme Court, who declined to overrule the Fifth Circuit with no explanation -- except for Justice Kavanaugh agreeing that we are likely to win the fight in the end, but saying that it's no big deal to let the state enforce the law in the meantime.

Needless to say, it's a big deal to let the state enforce the law in the meantime. The Mississippi law is a breathtaking state overreach: it forces us to verify the identity and age of every person who accesses Dreamwidth from the state of Mississippi and determine who's under the age of 18 by collecting identity documents, to save that highly personal and sensitive information, and then to obtain a permission slip from those users' parents to allow them to finish creating an account. It also forces us to change our moderation policies and stop anyone under 18 from accessing a wide variety of legal and beneficial speech because the state of Mississippi doesn't like it -- which, given the way Dreamwidth works, would mean blocking people from talking about those things at all. (And if you think you know exactly what kind of content the state of Mississippi doesn't like, you're absolutely right.)

Needless to say, we don't want to do that, either. Even if we wanted to, though, we can't: the resources it would take for us to build the systems that would let us do it are well beyond our capacity. You can read the sworn declaration I provided to the court for some examples of how unworkable these requirements are in practice. (That isn't even everything! The lawyers gave me a page limit!)

Unfortunately, the penalties for failing to comply with the Mississippi law are incredibly steep: fines of $10,000 per user from Mississippi who we don't have identity documents verifying age for, per incident -- which means every time someone from Mississippi loaded Dreamwidth, we'd potentially owe Mississippi $10,000. Even a single $10,000 fine would be rough for us, but the per-user, per-incident nature of the actual fine structure is an existential threat. And because we're part of the organization suing Mississippi over it, and were explicitly named in the now-overturned preliminary injunction, we think the risk of the state deciding to engage in retaliatory prosecution while the full legal challenge continues to work its way through the courts is a lot higher than we're comfortable with. Mississippi has been itching to issue those fines for a while, and while normally we wouldn't worry much because we're a small and obscure site, the fact that we've been yelling at them in court about the law being unconstitutional means the chance of them lumping us in with the big social media giants and trying to fine us is just too high for us to want to risk it. (The excellent lawyers we've been working with are Netchoice's lawyers, not ours!)

All of this means we've made the extremely painful decision that our only possible option for the time being is to block Mississippi IP addresses from accessing Dreamwidth, until we win the case. (And I repeat: I am absolutely incredibly confident we'll win the case. And apparently Justice Kavanaugh agrees!) I repeat: I am so, so sorry. This is the last thing we wanted to do, and I've been fighting my ass off for the last three years to prevent it. But, as everyone who follows the legal system knows, the Fifth Circuit is gonna do what it's gonna do, whether or not what they want to do has any relationship to the actual law.

We don't collect geolocation information ourselves, and we have no idea which of our users are residents of Mississippi. (We also don't want to know that, unless you choose to tell us.) Because of that, and because access to highly accurate geolocation databases is extremely expensive, our only option is to use our network provider's geolocation-based blocking to prevent connections from IP addresses they identify as being from Mississippi from even reaching Dreamwidth in the first place. I have no idea how accurate their geolocation is, and it's possible that some people not in Mississippi might also be affected by this block. (The inaccuracy of geolocation is only, like, the 27th most important reason on the list of "why this law is practically impossible for any site to comply with, much less a tiny site like us".)

If your IP address is identified as coming from Mississippi, beginning on September 1, you'll see a shorter, simpler version of this message and be unable to proceed to the site itself. If you would otherwise be affected, but you have a VPN or proxy service that masks your IP address and changes where your connection appears to come from, you won't get the block message, and you can keep using Dreamwidth the way you usually would.

On a completely unrelated note while I have you all here, have I mentioned lately that I really like ProtonVPN's service, privacy practices, and pricing? They also have a free tier available that, although limited to one device, has no ads or data caps and doesn't log your activity, unlike most of the free VPN services out there. VPNs are an excellent privacy and security tool that every user of the internet should be familiar with! We aren't affiliated with Proton and we don't get any kickbacks if you sign up with them, but I'm a satisfied customer and I wanted to take this chance to let you know that.

Again, we're so incredibly sorry to have to make this announcement, and I personally promise you that I will continue to fight this law, and all of the others like it that various states are passing, with every inch of the New Jersey-bred stubborn fightiness you've come to know and love over the last 16 years. The instant we think it's less legally risky for us to allow connections from Mississippi IP addresses, we'll undo the block and let you know.

The shoe hunt continues

Aug. 25th, 2025 08:22 am
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I'm still looking for my best shoes. Shoes that I can pop on any day, wear with socks and walk whereever/whenever I want that are NOT athletic shoes or sneakers. They need to fit well so I don't walk out of them and look decent (and my 'decent' gets broader and more inclusive every day). I have two pair of sandal-y shoes that I can actually wear every day all day and walk a fair bit in. I wore a pair of those the other day with socks and it worked out ok but not great.

Amazon is bringing me some more options later this week. And I still have one shoe store - the one my podiatrist recommended - that I haven't tried yet. If this week's Amazon selections don't work, I'll be heading over there to that store.

Otherwise, things are kind of on a good keel right now. I'm not on hold because of anything outside of my control - like SteveTheLawyer or the IRS. SteveTheLawyer has yet to settle the now 3.5 year old very simple trust. His last promise was to get it done by early 2025. Whatfuckingever.

The IRS still owes me money but it is clear that the chances of my living long enough to get it are growing slimmer every day. I went on their website this past weekend to check my transcript to see if there was any progress (none) and they asked me if I would take a survey. Sure. First question. Based on your visit today, how much do you trust the IRS. Hahahahaha. That was my giggle of the day.

It was a year ago that I switched financial advisors from the outfit I had used for more than 25 years to a new one. I am still delighted about that decision.

Two ballgames today - this afternoon. Aqua yoga this afternoon. I'll probably go out and puzzle some this morning and see if I can capture any hallway news.

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I take a fair number of photos. All are automagically saved in Google Photo which is a great photo app but it has one fatal flaw. There is no way to embed a photo from Google Photo to this journal. You can link to the page but not show the photo in the entry.

You can, of course do that with Dreamwidth's Images but, honestly, as much as I love Dreamwidth, their Images situation sucks on several levels.

So I use Flickr. But Flickr's default for uploaded images was restricted to Private, it required more steps to make the images work here. So I had another app that took every photo, screenshot, video on my phone and sent them to Flockr and loaded them so they are Public. This system has worked fine for years and years. I snapped all day and then, when I'm ready to put them into an entry, they are all in Flickr ready to go.

The only flaw in that plan was that every single photo I took with my phone got loaded into Flickr viewable by everyone. I had to remember this if I took a photo of a check or a credit card or anything else sensitive. And it was hard to remember so I just rarely did that.

Lately, I've had occasion where I really needed to do just that. So this morning, I looked into how to switch it all around and I discovered that Flickr now allows your to 'share' photos as Public by default. So I can now upload easily OR not and keep them private and still have a backup copy on Google Photos (which is all private).

Cool!

Also, the Mariners catcher, who happens to be a very cool guy who's from Culawee, NC - a fabulous little mountain town, just tied the record for homers by a catcher in a single season. Then, two innings later, he breaks that record. And the game is only in the 3rd inning!

Here's the test photo.

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Tile matching is killing me

Aug. 24th, 2025 08:38 am
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Every once in a while, I find a mindless phone/computer/tablet game that sucks me in and won't let go. Most of the time, I can amuse myself by one game of majong solitaire and a couple of rounds of spider a day. And I can go years without getting sucked into anything more. But, not, apparently this year. I'm deeply, madly, irrevocably sucked into this stupid tile matching game. I cannot quit playing it and just that fact is driving me nuts. I will not be controlled by a game, except when I am. Sigh.

Last year, when I was having to feed the cats that overly pricey cat prescription food, I bought it mostly from Chewy. Amazon would run out and/or fiddle with their delivery processes and the stuff was so expensive it easily cleared Chewy's free shipping hurdle. But, then, when we got to go back to cheap stuff, that free shipping hurdle became an issue. And I get 5% back off Amazon purchases. And toilet paper, toothpaste, kleenex, cat stuff... subscribe and save. And I let Chewy go. Really out of laziness. They each have about the same number of items on the 'Pro' list - where one is good, the other is not - and not too much on the 'Con'. So Amazon wins because I'm lazy.

But, then yesterday. They sent my brother flowers and a lovely note.

I immediately cancelled all my Amazon subscribe and saves and set up everything for autoship on Chewy. We are now, officially, Chewy all the way. No regrets. No second thoughts. Flowers. They sent flowers.

Yesterday, I ran into Hazel and her son and his wife in the hallway on their way down to get something notarized. BUT I'm a notary until the 3rd of November. So I did it. Hazel has never liked her daughter in law and now I get it. She was all consumed with setting up Hazels sad old Samsung tablet with audio books. Except. Hazel will never be able to use them and won't enjoy audio books at all. But there was no dissuading her. Also, she had no idea what she was doing. I showed her how to log in and why it was set up with no password and no credit card (so Hazel can click on anything she wants and not get charged). She had no idea how to overcome that obstacle so I just left her to it.

They left and Hazel sat down to chat with me. It was nice. She said she had been stopping at Joan's every day to report which I know Joan just loves and it's so nice of Hazel to do. She said that Dick and Jan (who barely even know her) had been popping their heads in every night to check on her. She said that John was ready to die and hopes it is soon. And noted that it probably will be since he's not eating. She said she was so grateful for this time that they have now. We've just been talking and reminiscing and visiting and it's really been nice. We haven't even had the TV on. She's very calm and cool and together about it all.

I was going to get up and swim this morning but, when I got up, I remembered why I stopped doing laps in the mornings. The fucking sun. There is a 20 foot floor to ceiling wall of windows at the pool and they face east. The glare is exacerbated by the water. Dark goggles help but not much. It's just not fun. I could go later but even now I already for 5,769 reasons why not. Sigh. So I'll do aqua yoga at least one more time tomorrow.

Biggie is not a lap cat. He wants to be on my lap but will not settle. He walks back and forth and back and forth and back and forth. I give him 3 times and then put him on the ground. Once in a while, he tries to sneak on. Very very very slowly, he starts with one paw and then just as slowly, he adds another. It cracks me up. He did it just now so he's now standing on my lap with his belly on my arms while I type. Oh Biggie, you are a weirdo.

I have a podiatrist appointment this week but I am to cancel it if everything is working. Both issues are clearly better. The peeling hard skin feet with ugly ass nails is totally on the mend. The nails will take 6 months or so to get 100% but they are on the way for sure. The other - the nerve thing - I'm not sure about. It's way better but still twinges now and then. But, I think I'm going to cancel for now and then go back if it gets worse.

The Phils play at 10:30 and the Mariners at 1. And there will be laundry doings. And probably some puzzling.

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leaving

Aug. 23rd, 2025 09:07 pm
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The birds have abandoned us. Only one rose-breasted grosbeak remains, and all the orioles are gone.

All kinds of things are leaving the house which makes me feel relieved. A service club is coming over to collect furniture we don't want, and then they will put it in their annual sale. I am so happy about this.

The clinic has a library and I borrowed a DVD that is yoga for osteoporosis patients. No more child's pose for me! No curving the spine forward. Now I notice how many things I do involve that exact movement. Wow.

Next week some night time lows are predicted to be in the 40s. Good sleeping weather if I open the window just a bit and use the duvet.

Last night the little cat was yowling and mewling. She had a katydid and didn't know what to do with it. The katy was sent back outside and the cat didn't seem to care.

Saturday

Aug. 23rd, 2025 09:18 am
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I check my investment balance every day which they say you should never do. But, 'they' are then boss of me. Anyway. On days when the total is down, I happily blame the current regime and just know that there are only 3 more years. (Yes, it might not get better but whatever.) But, when my balance is up, as it is today, substantially, I do not give credit but, instead, just guiltily enjoy the bonus.

My phone and my watch got upgrades - software - and both are now doing new things. Not bad things but doing things differently and it's disconcerting. My new phone arrives at the end of this week which is kind of cool. In the past, Google had 3 or 4 weeks between pre-order and delivery. This is much better. Amazon delivered my case yesterday but I think I can probably use the case I've already got. They do appear to be the same.

Jo Jo Moyes has a new book out. I really enjoyed a lot of her books but the one before this latest one was way too romantic novel for me. I used to buy them automatically but after the last one, I decided I'd just wait in line at the library even though her queues are generally years long. Last night I finished my current book and went to settle on the next one and saw her new one in Audible so I went to Libby to see if it was in the library yet. And, yes, it was - apparently arrived minutes ago because there were 10 copies and 0 checked out!! Ha! So now, I can read it for free and if I don't like it I can 'gift' the next person in the queue.

It's supposed to be stupid hot for the next forever days so I'm not going anywhere. Sorry new car battery. You'll just have to hold up on your own.

Time now to go get dressed for Elbow Coffee. Could be an interesting one today. If so, dets here, I promise.

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Just Create - Radio Edition

Aug. 22nd, 2025 08:49 pm
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What are you working on? What have you finished? What do you need encouragement on?

Are there any cool events or challenges happening that you want to hype?

What do you just want to talk about?

What have you been watching or reading?

Chores and other not-fun things count!

Remember to encourage other commenters and we have a discord where we can do work-alongs and chat, linked in the sticky

Slanted

Aug. 22nd, 2025 07:15 am
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I got the new rug to keep the cables running out of the table from tripping me. Works great. Looks fine. EXCEPT. The carpet is deep enough that when the table sits on the run it dips down and the rug cups around the legs. Ugly. So I put thin boards under the table legs. Perfect. EXCEPT now the table slants.

It looks fine in the picture I took but very slanty in real life. I've decided not to worry about it. For now. Maybe later.

Starting today and going pretty much through Labor Day, it's going to be hot AF around here. Unrelenting sun. But knowing it's the end of this shit for at least 9 months AND the night's worth of cool are longer, helps the attitude. Also, the a/c is fabulous and I live in the best place.

Today there are two ballgames but the first one isn't until 4. I think the car is fine so no errands needed. My Costco run, yesterday, was great. They have a lot of new stuff and I didn't get much but made notes for the future. I got coffee and cupcakes and ham and cheese croissants and a couple of other critical items. $85. I was proud. I'd forgotten how very nice our Costco is. BIG aisles. You can easily maneuver even when a family of 7 is in the middle of the aisle having a family meeting. It is just across the street from the Costco corporate headquarters so it gets a lot of management scrutiny and shopping there shows that.

It is new menu day so I guess I'll get in some steps and go pick mine up from the cubbies.

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So where will I go today?

Aug. 20th, 2025 04:16 pm
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I have nothing on my calendar for today. Not even a ballgame. But, I feel like I need to take the car out for a battery run. I do have an Amazon return (of course) but I'm also thinking Costco. I let my Costco expire last February but I miss it. And I miss the experience. It makes me walk steps. Plus I'm low on coffee and I do not like Amazon's options. So I think that's today's destination. Costco.

Google added an insurance option to the Pixel watch last year and I've been paying $4 a month ever since. I swear that is the only thing that has kept it going. I've had plenty of chances to crack it, to drown it and even once to lose it. Although the insurance does not cover theft or loss, more's the pity. They have never offered insurance for the phone. Yes, I could use my homeowners except, ooops, no home, no homeowners. I don't have renters insurance.

But this time, when I bought the new phone, it had an insurance option. I didn't click it. But this morning I went back and did. $200 for 2 years - $0 deductible for screen cracks and battery fixes and it includes theft and loss. This will ensure the screen on my new phone will stay uncracked!

The Food and Beverage meeting was way more interesting than usual. The director spilled all of the plans for new dining. Starting now and going through the end of next year, they are going to redo everything. And provide a lot more options - particularly options that I am interested in. They are adding an all day coffee shop with pastries and a 24/7 grab and go place. They are making a lot of physical moves and changes. It all sounded pretty fabulous to me. Now we'll see how it pans out.

Hazel popped in last night to report that John is all settled into his new room in the nursing wing. She is greatly relieved. He has hospice care. Apparently, he can no longer eat much of anything so it won't be too long, I don't think. She'll be as ok as she can be and has a lot of friends and helpers. She is not fearful or fretful about what's going on or will happen or what will happen after. She's pretty chill now that he's back here.

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I'd forgotten

Aug. 20th, 2025 12:14 pm
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One of the things I abandoned when I left Live Journal was all the spam. I'd forgotten. Well, it apparently has finally found its way to Dreamwidth. I'm getting subscribes and mail from people who joined that day and have 0 friends and 0 everything else. At least banning is easy. I hope they give up soon.

now it is 11:10 am

Aug. 20th, 2025 09:13 am
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Let's recap. So far today:

Laundry done and put away.
Phone ordered.
Car fixed.

Now it is 4th inning and the Mariners are losing... again.

The battery guy was weird but very efficient. He says batteries last about 5 years and the fact that since I moved here, I take the car out far less frequently, makes my dead battery a noble soldier. He put the new battery in without even a snark about having to work in the tiny, inconvenient space that the Smart Car has.

Everything sprung to life the minute he connected it. Started right up. He said to start it up and run it 5 to 10 minutes every other week, at least.

The only wrinkle was paying him. He wanted cash, check or zelle. I could not bring up zelle on my phone. I was using the BECU app and I think maybe I needed the Zelle app. He then suggested we go to an ATM. Which we did and it was fine.

And, no, I did not feel sketchy at all as an old woman withdrawing hundred dollar bills to hand off to a young kid. Not sketchy at all.

It was fine and he was really sweet and I'm all fixed and it's not even noon!

I did stop by Taco Time so early lunch while I was the Phils increase their lead.

As long as they are done by 1:30. Food and Bev meeting.

Tonight is fried chicken night at the buffet. If it looks good, I might buy dinner for two and put the second dinner in the freezer.

P.S. When I bought the car, the salesman explained there was no spare tire but there was a can of air in the car that would, hopefully, get enough tire to get to help. I never questioned. I never looked. I never found any can of air.

Yesterday, when pulling back the carpet to get to the battery, I found a little cubby with the cutest little air pressure machine in it and a bottle of what appears to be tire hole plugging juice. The instructions are in German. I've only had the car for 14 years. As my brother pointed out, could be time to read the manual and see what other secrets it is hiding.

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Aug. 20th, 2025 09:38 am
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My current phone's crack would cost me $300-500 to fix. The trade in value is $235. My old phone has a trade in value of $450. So... Trading in old phone, buying shiny new BLUE! Pixel 10 - even with taxes = $450. And new phone comes with massive cloud storage and google's pro AI for a year and $170 store credit which I will use to get a fancy charger and new case, probably.

I'm hoping new phone does not come with pre-cracked screen. Cracked screen phone will be on standby for backup.

All done and now I don't have to sit through the stupid announce event. Win win.

Timing

Aug. 20th, 2025 08:16 am
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Tomorrow there is nothing on the calendar. Not even a baseball game. Today I have a baseball game (both my teams) and the Google event and the car repair guy all at the same friggin' time! Geesh. Also a Food and Beverage meeting.

I told the car guy that anytime Thursday or Friday was best. So he picked 10 am today. ??? Whatever.

The Google event is at 1 pm eastern time which is 11 am here. BUT the Google store has a countdown timer for when the phone will be available to order and it says that there is 1 hour left. Meaning 9 am. Which would really suit me better. I am going to buy a new phone and trade in this cracked one. I would love to get my order in before the car guy comes. (The sooner you order, the better your color choices are and the sooner your delivery date is.)

I put in a load of laundry last night and set the machine to start this morning. It's got 10 more minutes. Then I fold and put away.

Also today, they are coming around to change the batteries in our thermostats and clean out the HVAC filters. I don't need to be here for that. Last night Joan stuck her head in the door and yell 'ARE YOU GOING TO BE HERE TOMORROW???' She always does that. Are you going to Safeway? Are you going to be here this weekend. It annoys the shit out of me. I have vowed to answer 'why do you ask, Joan' but last night I put the game on mute and said that mostly I would be. "WELL I HAVE A 1:30 DOCTORS APPOINTMENT IN CASE FACILITIES COMES AND WANTS TO KNOW". OK. 1. They don't need you here or care. 2. Neither do I. 3. Tell Bonny, not me! She's working my last. and 4. Don't yell at me ever.

Ok, laundry's done. Folded and put away. So at least there is that. So far, so good.

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Yoga fail

Aug. 19th, 2025 08:34 am
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I bailed out of aqua yoga. The instructor, I don't think, has ever been in the water. I'm sure his instruction is great if you are 1. on land and 2. really into yoga. I am not on land and I want to stretch, not breathe. The stuff he has us do mostly works meh in water. He does not use the water at all so mainly we fight to stay and not float away. And also the 45 minutes are spent 15 minutes moving slowly and 30 minutes stationary and just breathing. The water is warm unless you are just standing there breathing and then it gets cold fast.

So. Yesterday was my last class. I will spend 30 minutes swimming laps on Sunday mornings instead.

Volleyball was also kind of meh today. One of our best players is hooked to a heart monitor for the next week and a half so can't play. The asshole was there today being very assholey. But, it's over and I didn't say anything I wanted to so I'm glad of that. My lips are getting better at staying zipped.

Watching the Phillies play the Mariners was really weird. Kind of like when you catch an NPR person talking on TV. The sound is right and the lips are moving in sync but my brain just can't handle it. The Phillies ate up the Mariners and then spit them out. Because of MLB blackout, I could not listen to the Phillies broadcasters so I'm listening to the idiot Mariners guys who are clearly rooting for the wrong team. It was beyond weird. There are two more games and then everyone goes back into their assigned corners. They will probably meet again in a few years but not before.

Today is house cleaner day and so errand day.

John's still dying. Joan is in bad shape but not dying and, I think, pretty pissed at John for stealing all the attention. Hazel is holding up kind of. She's getting a lot of attention from a wide variety of people and she's trying to keep everyone happy. Including John. It's kind of a mess.

Oh wait. Breaking news! Hazel just came in and sat for a chat. Her son has been working with exactly the right people here at Timber Ridge (which I had hoped was the case but didn't know) and they have a room in the nursing wing for John to move into tomorrow. This is perfect. This is exactly the way things should work around here and usually don't. But this time. Hazel does not have to do a thing except walk over there to visit. He'll even be on this very floor.

She said that the doctors told the both of them that they don't know if John has a day, a week or a year. But now he'll be comfortable and she'll be able to be with him whenever she wants on her own. I am very relieved. And so is she.

Oh and now I'm getting sucked back into aqua yoga. Maybe. I sent a note explaining why I was quitting and now Erica (the fitness person) is asking 'if we do xxx' would you reconsider. Sure.

As always, stay tuned!

But now it's nearly 10 and I'm not dressed yet!

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listen to the sky

Aug. 18th, 2025 11:32 pm
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Tonight, so far, according to the Migration Dashboard, 44,000 birds have flown south over the county. Birds, so many birds, winging in the dark overhead.

Last night, the sky was lit up by lightning that was so far away I could not hear thunder. The lightning strikes were constant, and went on for hours. I stopped watching, afraid that their strobe-like effect would give me a migraine. (Glad to say I did not get one.)

A few days ago I sat on a bench on the hill in the park and had an affogato: espresso over vanilla gelato topped with whipped cream. It was more delicious that I had imagined it would be.

I am overwhelmed by all the things I need to do to care for my body. If I do them I will protect myself from pain. I'm imagining what kind of visual tool I can create for myself that will be fun and a reminder and a motivator. I might draw a Snakes and Ladders board for this.

No doubt many people can just Do The Thing that is required. I can do something for about 18 days and then my attention shifts. It takes me a lot of effort to create a new habit. I resent this. Adhd affects people in different ways. Mine creates barriers to accomplishment.

I'm rereading 'Moscow & St. Petersburg 1900-1920 : art, life & culture of the Russian silver age' by John E. Bowlt. It is full of the most beautiful color reproductions. With a few exceptions, most of the artwork was unfamiliar to me before finding this book. I have a physical copy, but I think you can borrow the digital version from the Internet Archive.

Now the Migration Dashboard says that 48,900 birds have flown over the county. I wonder if they are silent as they migrate.

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Aug. 18th, 2025 07:54 am
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Noelle has taken to leaving me little notes on my shelf. Yesterday her first one was a long rambler about how she had baked something - I forget what - for Hazel but couldn't find her and wanted to know this and that. I sent her a text and said talk to Bonny. The second one was 4 hours later and even longer about how she had run into Hazel ramble ramble and then "I'll let her tell you what they decided but her husband wants to come home" and then some stuff about God's will. I texted her "thank you for the note." Leave me alone, Noelle. You have Jesus. You don't need me.

Martha popped in last night and said she had run into Hazel at Costco - her son had taken her.

The Phillies won. The Mariners lost. Today (tomorrow and Wednesday) they play each other.

Today is aqua yoga. Tomorrow is volleyball and house cleaner day. Wednesday is the Food and Beverage committee meeting. Thursday is volleyball. Friday is pretty open if you want to schedule something.

Also Wednesday is the Fall Google hardware announcement. I'm on the fence about a new phone. So I'll watch the announcement and decide.

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Aug. 17th, 2025 07:58 am
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Yesterday, at elbow coffee, Ingrid showed up for a while. She comes late, complains about the latest Timber Ridge insult, and then leaves early. She once screamed at me, during elbow coffee, because I did not check on her when we had an alarm go off. "You are my neighbor! You are supposed to look out for me!!" It was ridiculous. Yesterday, her complaint was that every time she forgets to open her door, Timber Ridge calls "or worse yet, comes to my door". This is a horrible thing to her. She has now lived here more than 5 years and this has been going on every single day for those 5 years but I guess, yesterday, she couldn't conjure up any new offenses.

Others tried to jump in with solutions (which she did not want) and I just kept my lips zipped. Finally she finished ranting and left.

Joan called last night clearly looking for me to say 'if you need anything, let me know' but, aha! I have successfully wiped that phrase out of my playbook. I listened and ummed and aha'd at appropriate places and then said goodbye.

Yesterday, Jim (across the hall - not the Jim of Jim and Gail) came out while I was puzzling. He had his TV remote with him. Jim's problem or part of it, is that he cannot express himself. He says all the words correctly - he does not mumble or slur - but the word strings rarely make sense. I explained that there was no joy unless we were in front of his TV so we went there. He really couldn't tell me what he wanted. There was a ribbon on last watched channels that seemed to bother him because of the six, he only wanted 3. "I want to watch the UC one there on the far right." The one on the far right was NBC. He said his buddy who helped him set up was coming over today and he'd show him. I did remove some of the last watched. But never did figure out what he wanted. But he had a car race to watch so when I left he was happy. He never wants much and is always so pleasant.

Martha says that the neighbor care requirement here is greater than the rest of the complex. She thinks it's because we are on this shorten floor. Most floors have 20+ apartments and we have only 10. But, I'm learning how to do it. Lips zipped, hands not raised, response, not volunteer. I think I can do it.

My friend, Steve, told me yesterday that he turns his thermostat down to 65 at night and then up to 72 during the day - every day. Seems like I tried that when I first moved in and it did not work. I was getting heat when I wanted cool. But, hey, Steve's been here for a lotta years. So I tried it last night. Heaven. It was just perfect for sleeping. My bed said 92 out of 100. This morning I turned it to 72 - too hot. So back down to 70 and I opened the door to the patio which thrilled Julio.

The Phillies game is about to start. The Mariners are playing at Williamsport, PA - the home of the little league world series. I might watch some but for sure on mute. I do not approve of baseball games in these silly places like car racing stadiums and little league parks.

No big plans for after the game. Just the usual. I might run a couple of errands and I might save them for next week.

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Aug. 16th, 2025 11:52 am
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John is giving up treatment. BUT Bonny has picked up the support wagon. She and Hazel agreed that Hazel is going to keep Bonny updated and Bonny is going to report to everyone else. This is a fabulous arrangement. For me. Ok so new news, as I type that sentence, Bonny just came in to say that John is going to have some sort of treatment today to look at his stomach 'so he's not pulled the plug yet'.

Joan did not spend the night at the hospital. But she did not come to elbow coffee. Her grandson and grand-daughter-law and her son have all arrived today. No word on that. But, I am not on the hook there, either.

Dick (of Jan and Dick) has found out that instead of an outpatient procedure to work on his heart, he now needs a bypass or stent or something, they haven't decided, and has been told to be careful about exercise.

Jim got a paper cut from his airline luggage tag at the airport last week and, thanks to blood thinners, nearly bled out standing in the TSA line.

Elbow Coffee was interesting today - at least no one bitched about the weather.

Bonny is a fast learner

Aug. 16th, 2025 09:03 am
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Yesterday we were in the hallway discussing Joan and I could tell that I'd lost her attention. She reached up to the back of my head "oh I think I missed a spot." Then she smoothed it down and declared that it was fine after all.

It's one thing to get a good barber but it's the creme dela creme to get one that will always be on the look out for when a trim is needed.

I got a call yesterday from a woman who lives on the other side of the complex. Their son is married to Joan's daughter. She called to tell me that Joan was in the hospital. "Her daughter's with her but she wanted me to call you because she didn't see anyone else on the hall to tell when she was leaving."

I get that. Particularly when I head out for Bellevue or some other place and am going to be gone longer than 30 minutes, I always think I need someone back here, on the hall, to know. No reason but I always think that. So I get it.

Joan has many many problems but lately, it's her back. It doesn't help that she is 92. But she has very active family and she has every single on of her marbles. Nothing to be done by us but I went to tell Bonny and she and I went into Joan's apartment to make sure all was fine. It was. Bonny also told me that John had his first massive drug treatment and it went fine.

10 minutes later she was in my apartment to tell me that 'fine' was apparently short lived and that now he was in the same hospital as Joan.

Elbow Coffee will be sparsely attended this morning. Jack is on a cruise and Jim and Gail are off somewhere again.

I love my new coffee table. I have a power brick and charging cables that I use for computers, watch, cat toys, phone. And I have all my knitting stuff. I finally decided that the charging stuff needs to go into the table. I have two cables, then, that need to come out. So last night I grabbed my handy dandy drill and the biggest drill bit I have and dug out a hole. It was a lot harder than I expected but I managed to get a slot exactly the right size.

I did trip over the power cable twice so I looked into a cable cover. My first try was a total fail - going back to Amazon. But then, I thought, why not a throw rug?! Like the one I have on the other side of the room?? PERFECT and they are on sale. It will be here Monday. So I just need to be extra careful til then.

And speaking of charging, I see that Julio's favorite toy needs more juice.

My two games are on at the same time again today. Yesterday, they kept pulling ahead and then falling behind, both of them. So I'd keep the sound on the one that was behind until they pulled ahead and then mute it when they got the needed runs and listen to the other game. It worked out fine.

Martha and Bonny both wanted mini monsters in school colors. I complied.

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